Love

Love

*The picture above was taken by me summer of 2009. Yes, it is real! *

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 breaks down the true definition of the word love.

“Love is patient and kind, love does not envy or boast, it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth; love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.”

Whether I like it or not I’m a compassionate person, which means love is something I give effortlessly. Today people have a hard time knowing how to give and accept love. I, unfortunately, fall into the category of not knowing how to accept love. Of course I can accept the love of my family, however when it comes to accepting love from a partner, it’s another story.

Love in 2017 is scary and it’s not supposed to be that way. When I date it goes from friendly conversation to texting all the time to absolutely nothing. For the longest time I thought there was something wrong with me.

“Am I overbearing?” “Did I say the wrong thing?”

I’ve learned that it wasn’t me or anything I’ve done (duh.) It had everything to do with the thought of loving someone and being loved. As I stated before, I give love effortlessly. But because my compassion has been taken advantage of, it makes it hard for me to accept love. How do we change this?

1. We know our worth.I'm an awesome person. I, nor you, deserve to be taken advantage of or mistreated, we demand the best. Don't let loneliness make you settle for less. We are beautiful and deservelove just as much as anyone else

2. We speak up.I have learned to say what I want at the beginning to avoid wasting time. This is something I feared doing because rejectionis real and it hurts. But wouldn’t you rather drop the wrong guy than waste time?

3. Take your time. Don’trushlove, just enjoy the time together, which brings me to number

4. Have fun. When love knocks at my door I want to have fun. I want to laugh, go on dates, and just be myself. We shouldn’t take it too serious or we’ll miss the importance of love as well as the fun

5. Accept the facts and move on. If it didn’t work out, it just didn’t work out. Sitting around thinking of what should have or could have happened doesn’t change the fact that it didn’t work out. I have difficulties with this step because I want to fix the unfixable. I’m learning to acceptthat it wasn’t meant to be fixed and move on

Last but not least

6. This is the most important part, trusting someone with your heart. It’s scary yes but worth it. If we want to accept love, we have to trust that we are loved.

We all get that panicking feeling when we’re wondering if the other person feels the same way. Some of those answers are yes but because we don’t accept their love we miss it. We have to let that guard down and let lovetake over. Be boldand trust that gut feeling. When the right one comes along you’ll know. Have you had a hard time accepting love? If so what holds you back? Any advice for me? Let’s talk!