Insecurities pt. 1

Welcome Back Everyone!

I decided that my first topic would be about something that I struggle with on a daily basis...Insecurities!

According to dictionary.com, there are four definitions of the word insecure. The one I relate to the most is the following:

“not confident or certain, uneasy; anxious"

For as long as I can remember, I have struggled with being insecure. From a young age I accepted that I was different; not in a bad way but different.  I was an easy target to be teased. Some of the kids my age would make me feel bad about who I was. I didn’t want the come off as this annoying person or as a snob, so I began to overthink my actions in front of them. My overthinking caused me to become insecure on how I acted in front of people. I would feel uneasy when conversing and anxious for the interaction to be over.

From those past experiences, I developed a bad habit of caring what others think of me. I almost let my insecurities keep me from starting this blog. I didn’t want others judging me and my work because I do an excellent job of that myself. It’s exhausting seeing every flaw within yourself.

“You’re too nice Cadesia!” “You’re being awkward Cadesia!” “You’re stuck in your head Cadesia!” “You’re overthinking again Cadesia!”

As I am getting older, I’m starting to embrace who I am. It took me a long time to get to the point where I can honestly say “I do not care about what you think of me.” I shrug off shady comments and laugh at the ignorance. I’m growing. Everyone has something that they are insecure about. The best way to handle those insecurities is learning to embrace them. That way you’re becoming secure in who you are without apology.

I’m not saying that I’ve conquered my insecurities. I still get that uneasy/anxious feeling in front of certain people. However, I’ve learned that my insecurities are a part of who I am. And your insecurities are a part of who you are too.

Here are a few tips I've learned to embrace my insecurities:

Laugh at yourself. Don't take everything too seriously it's ok to laugh at your embarrassmentsBlock out the negativity. You're one of a kind don't let anyone make you feel bad for thatLove what you see. We are God made! He made us perfect so who can tell me that I'm not beautiful?

So take a look at yourself in the mirror and soak in how beautifully complex you really are! Flaws & All. What are some things you are insecure about? Let's talk!